I strongly believe that the days create to celebrate mothers, fathers, love and more once a year are all marketing gimmicks to make people buy special gifts, flowers and chocolates. But, since I am writing this post on Mother’s Day, I thought I would take the opportunity to wish all mothers out there, with special wishes to my Amma. And as India and the world at large are still in the grips of a dreadful pandemic, my heart goes out to all those who have lost their mothers during this period.
I have read, heard and seen many women say that their mothers are their best friends and that they can share anything and everything with them. I have often wondered if I am the only one who has not felt that way… for me, my mother is just that, my mother. But, the role of a mother comprises so many facets, from mothering to nurturing to mentoring and disciplining; I am sure ‘friend’ also falls into the list. In my case, though, I never opened up to my mother, or anyone for that matter, during my childhood and teen years.
As I started navigating through adulthood, I realized that the bond between a mother and daughter is unique. Even though the common notion is that daughters are more attached to their fathers, the connection we have with our mothers is definitely unique. Take our case, for instance. My mother is a Libran and I am a Gemini and our personalities couldn’t me more difficult. We disagree on a hundred things but there are equal or more situations where our thoughts are on the same wavelength (much to our surprise/shock on several occasions). I have also noticed that the style of conversation we have with our mothers is unique too. For example, there have been times when my mother would send the same message to Mr. P and me and he would have no clue what she meant. Meanwhile, I would have comprehended and responded to the message already.
So, to cut the long story short, I believe that even though my mother is not my best friend, the bond we share is unique and I am sure all of you will agree with me.
Here’s to all the women out there who don the role of a mother in some way or the other, by mothering their kids, spouses, friends, pets and even plants. Have a wonderful day!